self love

I've been thinking about self care the last while and have more questions than answers. I'd really like to learn more about how to love yourself in a healthy way.

So often the thoughts directed toward ourselves are negative. Maybe it's not this way for everyone, but I think we all experience it to some extent. What would it feel like to be completely content with how we act, our clothes, body, skin, hair? Some ladies always look nice and wear the latest patterns, fabric, sweaters, and shoes. Others don't think as much about their appearance. I think we should all respect ourselves enough to be presented in the best possible way.

What if we treated our bodies like a plant that we carefully nurtured? Instead of hating our shape or size, how about thinking I want to take care of my body. It needs more fresh vegetables and fruits, water, exercise, sunshine, and rest. What if we were friends with ourselves and spoke kindly instead of feeding our mind with thoughts like You are fat and ugly, everyone else is prettier than you. You can't sew like that person and your dresses are old and plain. Your hair is a mess and that's an old-fashioned hairstyle. Your skin is too pale and blemished, you'll never have a nice complexion. Would you say those things to a friend? Or even an enemy?? Those kind of thoughts can become so loud and convincing we actually start believing them.

I'm not sure if I got my thought out correctly. I'd love to hear from anyone if you have wisdom or experiences to share on how to have a healthy view of yourself!